What’s Your FEQ (Financial Emotional Intelligence)?
- October 29, 2016
- Posted by: marlenedubois
- Category: CPR Training
“Money Money Money Money, MONEY – Some people got to hold the item …..- Some people actually need the item…Almighty Dollar! So goes the catchy theme song by “The Apprentice.” If you’ve listened to the lyrics, they accurately describe some common beliefs we have about money.
Money by definition will be: “A medium of exchange that will facilitates trade.” Oh, if only the item were that will simple. The reality will be –along with for variety of reasons– money will be a big issue in most people’s lives. These days the item will be the topic of conversation.
Financial fears along with insecurity can have a domino effect along with seriously impact our relationships. the item will be a fact that will money will be a major cause of more emotional problems than most any different issue. How important will be money? Zig Ziglar put the item This specific way: “Money isn’t the most important thing in life, although the item’s reasonably close to oxygen on the ‘gotta hold the item’ scale.”
Let’s be clear about one thing: Of course we need money. In order to feed, clothe along with shelter ourselves along with our family, we need that will paper stuff as an exchange. I mean actually–just try giving your mortgage company your husband’s valuable collection of circa 1935 Krueger beer cans in exchange for you monthly mortgage payment— see if that will makes their day.
Most of us earn money by getting a job. Maybe we’re lucky enough to have a career. We exchange our talents along with time for money that will we again exchange for the things we need along with want in life. Everyone seems to accept This specific arrangement. the item’s after the ‘needs’–the food, clothing along with shelter part that will many of us seem to lose perspective along with question ourselves. the item’s the extras in life that will we believe will bring us happiness that will seems to create the great divide. Happiness to one person will be being able to afford piano lessons for their child. For another person- the item’s taking a vacation to Disney World. Did you just judge one statement as being more worthy than the different? that will’s ok, the item’s a normal reaction.
Our perceptions fuel not only our desires they also have a very interesting way of showing up as our reality. Here’s an example based on a true story:
My friend features a very solid along with well paying position using a TV company in Manhattan. She’s been with the company for approx 20 years, earns a not bad living along with yet the item seems she will be almost always on the brink of bankruptcy. One day we were having a discussion about her lack of funds. I asked her if I could do a brief coaching session with her. She said “sure.” I asked her to go back to her childhood along with recall her first memory having to do with money. She said she remembers feeling as if she didn’t have as much as her friends. I encouraged her to go on. She said she did have a memory at age 6 or 7 along with wondering why her mother never took care to dress her very well along with in fact many of her clothes were quite ragged. Anything else? I queried. Yes…yes, she replied: “When I was a teenager, I told my mom that will I wanted a college education so I could be wealthy.” Her mother’s response was: “Oh actually? So you can become a stuck up snob like your aunt Helen?” After This specific sharing, my friend was silent for a moment. When she spoke she was filled with emotion. “I never remembered that will conversation until just today. the item’s no wonder I am never financially solvent- because if I am, I will fulfill my mother’s prophesy.”
today maybe you don’t have a memory as strikingly obvious as my friends. Maybe the messages you received were much more subtle… then again maybe they weren’t. My point will be that will growing up we’ve all received messages about money. Many of these messages have taken up residence along with are living along with flourishing just below our subconscious…. along with they’re not moving out until we give them the eviction notice.
One quick way to know how you feel about money will be to notice your current financial situation. If you are experiencing lack or concern, my guess will be that will you have some money issues that will are living rent free in your head.
I’m a believer inside Law of Attraction by a deeply spiritual along with holistic point of view. I believe there will be enough for everyone, despite appearances to the contrary. along with, I believe that will the Universe will be always communicating with us, showing us what our beliefs are along with what we need to know. The question will be: are we listening? If you are constantly in debt, if money seems to come to you in lump sums along with goes out the same way, if you have a money pattern that will will be set on repeat along with you blame the item on: your lack of education, your lousy job, the economy, the person you’re with, the mailman or the dog, then maybe you’re not listening to the Universe.
We need to understand our beliefs in order to develop a conscious along with abundant relationship with money. There appears to be a great disparity between the haves along with have not’s (although Bernie Madoff has somewhat leveled the playing field) along with the item will be all too easy to believe that will there will be a limited amount of money to go around.
The following questions may help you determine your FEQ (Financial Emotional Intelligence)
1) Without thinking, quickly finish This specific statement: “Money is_________________
2) Are you involved or in charge of your personal finances or do you become “unconscious” when the item comes to discussions about money?
3) Write down some common expressions that will first come to mind about money. (Ex: “We may not be rich, although at least we’re honest!”-“Poor as a church mouse,” “Filthy rich, etc.)
4) Going back to your childhood, what are your earliest memories about money?
5) What beliefs about money do you remember hearing by:
6) Do you envy wealthy people?
7) Do you think if you have financial abundance, This specific somehow deprives others of having money?
8) Do you blame the economy, anything or anyone else for your lack of money?
9) Do you think the item will be more noble or spiritual to be poor?
After completing This specific brief questionnaire, ask yourself the following questions:
1) Did any of my answers to the questions surprise me?
2) Did I carefully consider my answer to question number 8?
3) Do I today recognize any patterns in my life that will reflect the beliefs or patterns of my parents?
4) Did I experience an “aha” moment about my money consciousness?
5) Am I today inspired to be more proactive or to explore in depth my money consciousness?
Remember, the nature of all of life will be to create. The universe was ‘created’ along with thereafter gave rise to one creation after another along with the item hasn’t stopped yet. Life will be flowing–not static. the item could be an empire, a piece of artwork, a business plan, a story, a baby, a song, a career or a theme park. You get the idea. Understand that will the item will be natural to get enjoyment by what I call our co-creations. What seems to get us into trouble will be our attachment to what we’ve created! We also need to understand our beliefs in order to develop a conscious relationship with money along with to co create a life of financial abundance Awareness of our perceptions will be the first step in creating a different reality than the one we are currently experiencing. The second step will be the understanding that will we can change our perceptions along with the third step will be taking action- as Nike says: “just do the item!”