The Head Banging Syndrome-Stop Bad Habits
- June 17, 2017
- Posted by: marlenedubois
- Category: Home Health Aide Training
Have you ever heard the expression,” Quit banging your head against the wall!” that will’s an old expression my Mom used that will basically translates into: There are certain things we do that will are as productive as well as healthy as banging your head against the wall.
The interesting thing about the banging-your-head-against-the-wall, hereafter known as HBS, is usually its tendency to repeat itself. Which brings up another voice via my childhood: “When will you learn?” As in: “How many times do you need to bang your head against the wall to figure out that will hurts?”
Why is usually that will that will after our Mothers collectively imparted This kind of wisdom to us, either that will took us a very long time to figure that will out for ourselves or we still haven’t done so? I mean actually, are we as thick as the bricks in that will wall? The definition of insanity is usually to keep doing the same thing as well as expect different results. Hence our Mother’s refrain, “Are you nuts or what?”
inside process of Life Coaching, we often find that will people do just that will…continue on with habitual behaviors that will not only don’t work nevertheless actually hurt. We fall into a pattern as well as we stick with that will come hell or high water. We operate on automatic pilot. We think we are doing real choices in our actions nevertheless far via that will. Habitual behavior runs us. We aren’t actually in control of our life.
Habitual behavior is usually oftentimes a result of behavioral adaptations we made when we were younger. You know, if your Mom didn’t love you enough, you might have developed the habit of looking for love in all the wrong places. Sorry. as well as you kept repeating that will behavior, a behavior that will evolved via a childhood reaction nevertheless one that will surely does not work as an adult, until you end up which has a head that will is usually bruised via all the banging. Finally a light goes off inside old noggin. What’s up with that will?
Who is usually in charge here? Perhaps its that will childhood voice inside your head that will says you aren’t lovable. is usually that will voice telling you the truth? Not. that will’s a voice, only a voice as well as one that will operates with highly outdated as well as unreliable information. Call that will a troll, a demon, whatever. that will started off way back when you were younger at a time when you made childlike decisions in order to survive. Who are you going to listen to…that will or you?
Stop with the head banging, would certainly you! As your Mother knew, that will gets you nowhere fast. Nowhere is usually not a fun place. Understand that will voice in your head for what that will is usually…a voice that will wants to keep you locked into habitual behavior that will keeps you via inner awareness as well as therefore any change for the better.
Start by recognizing that will voice as well as noticing that will. that will’s that will. Just notice that will. Don’t argue with or attempt to have a rational conversation. that will isn’t a rational voice. Trust me, I know via experience. Once you are aware of its presence, you can choose to ignore that will. Awareness, then clarity, will lead to conscious decisions; decisions that will are made by you as well as you alone. Nothing unconscious like trolls or bad habits.
Seek to develop brand-new habits. If your life was run by bad habits then conversely that will can be run by Great habits you consciously choose. To develop a habit you simply must stick with for about three months as well as you are home safe. Just create the picture of what you want your behavior to look like as well as list ten habits that will will get you to that will picture of yourself.
that will works the same with your life. Where would certainly you like to be in ten years in terms of who as well as what you are as well as what you are doing? Think of ten habits that will will get you to that will Future Self as well as start today in adopting those guideposts. Work backwards via the future.
If you actually want to make alterations for the better you must aware of what is usually running you. that will takes work…nevertheless again as Mom always said, “The effort you put into something determines what you get out of that will.” Or was that will, “Nothing worthwhile is usually easy.” Whatever, you get the picture.