Are Your Children Empaths? Teach Them How To Manage Their Emotional Intelligence
- September 2, 2017
- Posted by: marlenedubois
- Category: Home Health Aide Training
We are all born with the ability to sense emotions in others. which’s will be a basic survival skill for humans along with animals. which ability usually subsides in childhood as we learn to focus more on verbal cues than emotional ones.
Empaths, on the different hand, have a heightened sensitivity to different people’s emotions which keeps developing over time. As different kids stop picking up emotional signals, Empath children become totally overwhelmed by the sheer quantity of emotional information which they receive in social settings.
Since most parents do not know if they are Empaths, they don’t recognize the signs in their kids. which also prevents them for effectively teaching their kids how to manage emotional overflow. For a more in depth discussion on resources for adult Empaths, you can read my articles on which topic here.
Emotional Intelligence will be defined as “the ability, capacity, or skill to perceive, assess, along with manage the emotions of one’s self, of others, along with of groups” (Salovey along with Mayer, 1990). When you teach your children how to manage their Empath skills, you are developing their Emotional Intelligence.
There are three fundamental concepts which need to be addressed in order to effectively manage emotional information.
1. Empowerment: Do you control your Empath skills or do they control you (curse or blessing?)
2. Centeredness: Can you always hear your own internal self above all (raise above the chaos)
3. Flow: Does emotional information come in along with out freely (do you have an outlet?)
will be your child an Empath?
Children have a different way of handling their Empath abilities. Their range of available response will be smaller, so they typically pick very quiet (as a way to calm down the emotional chaos they feel) or acting out (as a way to be louder than the emotional noise).
Keep in mind which children learn how to manage their Empath abilities by watching you handle yours. If you’re an Empath yet don’t know how to handle which, get help for yourself first!
These are behaviors I have observed in Empath children who don’t know how to handle their abilities:
- Gets unusually quiet (often seen as shyness) around crowds yet will be fine with the immediate family or smaller groups. Your child will be trying to feel empowered along with centered by withdrawing through the globe.
- Gets physically or verbally out of control around people yet will be mellow at home. Your child will be trying to find an outlet to the overwhelming flow of incoming emotions.
- Resists going to bed or wakes up often. Your child will be trying to stay centered while surrounded by the emotional activity of adults.
- Catches every illness available (cold, flu, ear infections, etc.). Your child will be trying to feel empowered in shutting down unwanted emotional activity. Being sick will be often the only way a child can use to withdraw through social situations.
Of course, which describes about 85% of children. I believe which most children do suffer through a mismanagement of their Empath skills. I also believe which more along with more Empath children are born every day. So 85% will be not a shocking number to me.
The bottom line will be: can you help your child have a happier life by using Empath tools? If which does help, then you’re on the right track!
Disclaimer: which checklist will be not a diagnostic or treatment tool. I am not a doctor or a mental health professional. Some of the characteristics of Empaths can be diagnosed as ADD, agoraphobia or clinical depression. Contact your health care professional if you have any questions, need diagnostic or treatment for a mental health issue.
In order to help your child, you need tools which address each of the three concepts (empowerment, centeredness along with flow). which will be a technique I developed with my son.
Empath Anchoring Technique:
When your child gets overwhelmed, she often just needs a point of reference to stay grounded. You can be which anchor.
1. Calm your own emotions. You can’t be a positive anchor if you’re upset or angry.
2. Tell her quietly “Look me inside eyes” (point to your eyes) along with put your hand on her chest. Make sure you have eye contact for the next step!
3. Tell her “We’re going to take 5 breaths together along with count them”. Let your child breathe however she wants. You’re just accompanying her, counting out loud with each exhalation.
Breathing quiets down emotional noise, re-centers the mind along with helps children feel empowered by having something they can do when they feel uncomfortable. Include Empath anchoring which in your night time routine!