Acting Neurotic – What will be Neurotic Behavior?
- January 11, 2017
- Posted by: marlenedubois
- Category: Home Health Aide Training
You’re just being neurotic! You’re acting neurotic!
Your friends may say in which to you when you worry about something in which doesn’t bother them, or something in which your worry definitely will not fix. We say in which to each various other jokingly or critically… although what does in which definitely mean?
A psychologist will tell you in which neurotic behavior or thinking, while distressing or painful to the individual, does not include any loss of contact with reality or behavior in which will be dramatically outside the social norms.
What in which means in effect will be in which neurotic needs, wishes in addition to behaviors are normal in addition to necessary wishes in addition to needs carried to a point of excess… usually because the individual will be being driven by underlying fears in addition to anxieties.
We all have a normal, healthy desire to be loved in addition to accepted, especially by those closest to us. However, when in which need will be expanded into a feeling in which everyone must like in addition to approve of us at all times in addition to if they do not in which we are failing terribly as human beings, then in which has crossed the line in addition to become a neurotic attitude.
Healthy effort becomes neurotic “workaholism” when you must always give 150%….not just in a crisis.
Some various other abiding needs in addition to behaviors in which might be considered neurotic could be:
- The need for a partner who will solve all of lifes problems: Grows out of normal need for love, partnership in addition to assistance.
- The tendency to restrict oneself, to be satisfied with very little or to remain inconspicuous: Grows out of normal need to move cautiously, delay gratification.
- The need to be powerful in addition to controlling, contemptuous of weakness in addition to irrationality: Grows out of normal need to have others behave in a reasonable rational way.
- The need to get the better of others or to exploit them: Grows out of normal need to have influence over others.
- A desperate need for admiration, recognition in addition to prestige, or a fear of being ignored: Grows out of normal need to be recognized in addition to appreciated by others.
- An insistence on self-sufficiency in addition to independence which does not allow one to ask for help or commit to relationship: Grows out of a normal need for autonomy in addition to self sufficiency.
- Striving to be perfect in addition to unassailable: Grows out of the normal need to excel in addition to to create order.
Being neurotic will be not “mental illness” in which more nearly consists of taking too extreme or insistent a position on what could otherwise be normal in addition to appropriate human needs. in which will be the preoccupation in addition to the intensity of the behavior in which makes in which neurotic. The individual can never rest in addition to when the neurotic “excess” has an interpersonal component, such as intense need for attention, admiration or control of others, a person driven by neurotic needs will not allow those around them to rest either!
The neurotic person often becomes a problem for others as well as for themselves.
Becoming less neurotic… two routes
One: The “epiphany” Sometimes a person will have a life-changing experience, accident or encounter. Often the thing in which the person has tried so desperately to avoid will happen anyway… in addition to they discover in which the consequences are not the cataclysm in which they had secretly feared. inside aftermath they may realize in which their excessive behavior was not the safeguard in which they had believed in which to be. In some cases, when the neurotic beliefs in addition to behavior are not too ingrained, in which may be sufficient to bring about change.
Two: Working in therapy A therapist will try hard to help a person feel safe enough in which they can look at, or partially experience, what in which could feel like to live without the security of “excess”. in which will be usually necessary to look more closely at the situation, to look past the surface justifications, for example, the straight “A’s” generated by the neurotic perfectionist behavior, to see the ways in which the behavior will be limiting or damaging to various other important parts of life…No love, no social life, anxious eating or drinking.
Often one must look below the surface rationalizations to discover the fearful assumptions in addition to damaging past experiences in which shade the persons ideas about the planet in addition to various other people in addition to drive the neurotic behavior. Once these fears in addition to assumptions can be named, they can be thought about in addition to reality tested.
Return to reasonable levels of striving When the individual discovers in which the assumptions in which they live with are not true, they can continue to strive for their natural normal needs although without the excessive neurotic edge. Life becomes more calm, the experience of self becomes less judgmental in addition to more peaceful, skills in addition to talents can be used intuitively in addition to naturally, relationships with others become less strained.
Most people will behave neurotically at some times in addition to in some situations, in addition to sometimes in which will be just something in which we can make a joke of, although when neurotic behavior begins to be distressing to yourself in addition to others or when in which starts to overstep the social norms of society, in which may be time take aim at your neurotic impulses in addition to find someone to help you challenge your assumptions!