Acting Neurotic – What is actually Neurotic Behavior?
- February 1, 2017
- Posted by: marlenedubois
- Category: Home Health Aide Training
You’re just being neurotic! You’re acting neurotic!
Your friends may say which to you when you worry about something which doesn’t bother them, or something which your worry definitely will not fix. We say which to each additional jokingly or critically… although what does which definitely mean?
A psychologist will tell you which neurotic behavior or thinking, while distressing or painful to the individual, does not include any loss of contact with reality or behavior which is actually dramatically outside the social norms.
What which means in effect is actually which neurotic needs, wishes along with behaviors are normal along with necessary wishes along with needs carried to a point of excess… usually because the individual is actually being driven by underlying fears along with anxieties.
We all have a normal, healthy desire to be loved along with accepted, especially by those closest to us. However, when which need is actually expanded into a feeling which everyone must like along with approve of us at all times along with if they do not which we are failing terribly as human beings, then which has crossed the line along with become a neurotic attitude.
Healthy effort becomes neurotic “workaholism” when you must always give 150%….not just in a crisis.
Some additional abiding needs along with behaviors which might be considered neurotic could be:
- The need for a partner who will solve all of lifes problems: Grows out of normal need for love, partnership along with assistance.
- The tendency to restrict oneself, to be satisfied with very little or to remain inconspicuous: Grows out of normal need to move cautiously, delay gratification.
- The need to be powerful along with controlling, contemptuous of weakness along with irrationality: Grows out of normal need to have others behave in a reasonable rational way.
- The need to get the better of others or to exploit them: Grows out of normal need to have influence over others.
- A desperate need for admiration, recognition along with prestige, or a fear of being ignored: Grows out of normal need to be recognized along with appreciated by others.
- An insistence on self-sufficiency along with independence which does not allow one to ask for help or commit to relationship: Grows out of a normal need for autonomy along with self sufficiency.
- Striving to be perfect along with unassailable: Grows out of the normal need to excel along with to create order.
Being neurotic is actually not “mental illness” which more nearly consists of taking too extreme or insistent a position on what could otherwise be normal along with appropriate human needs. which is actually the preoccupation along with the intensity of the behavior which makes which neurotic. The individual can never rest along with when the neurotic “excess” has an interpersonal component, such as intense need for attention, admiration or control of others, a person driven by neurotic needs will not allow those around them to rest either!
The neurotic person often becomes a problem for others as well as for themselves.
Becoming less neurotic… two routes
One: The “epiphany” Sometimes a person will have a life-changing experience, accident or encounter. Often the thing which the person has tried so desperately to avoid will happen anyway… along with they discover which the consequences are not the cataclysm which they had secretly feared. from the aftermath they may realize which their excessive behavior was not the safeguard which they had believed which to be. In some cases, when the neurotic beliefs along with behavior are not too ingrained, which may be sufficient to bring about change.
Two: Working in therapy A therapist will try hard to help a person feel safe enough which they can look at, or partially experience, what which could feel like to live without the security of “excess”. which is actually usually necessary to look more closely at the situation, to look past the surface justifications, for example, the straight “A’s” generated by the neurotic perfectionist behavior, to see the ways which the behavior is actually limiting or damaging to additional important parts of life…No love, no social life, anxious eating or drinking.
Often one must look below the surface rationalizations to discover the fearful assumptions along with damaging past experiences which coloring the persons ideas about the entire world along with additional people along with drive the neurotic behavior. Once these fears along with assumptions can be named, they can be thought about along with reality tested.
Return to reasonable levels of striving When the individual discovers which the assumptions which they live with are not true, they can continue to strive for their natural normal needs although without the excessive neurotic edge. Life becomes more calm, the experience of self becomes less judgmental along with more peaceful, skills along with talents can be used intuitively along with naturally, relationships with others become less strained.
Most people will behave neurotically at some times along with in some situations, along with sometimes which is actually just something which we can make a joke of, although when neurotic behavior begins to be distressing to yourself along with others or when which starts to overstep the social norms of society, which may be time take aim at your neurotic impulses along with find someone to help you challenge your assumptions!